Self-Rejection

The world has given us (women and minorities) so many rules. There are walls and glass ceilings that surrounds us so there should be no room for self-doubt and self-rejection. Some of us find ourselves wondering if we are good enough.

Have you ever wanted to ask for a promotion or a raise, ask a person out, apply for a position that you really want, ask a neighbor to have a cup of tea with you, and so on … and you do not do it? You are afraid that you may be rejected by the other person or party. So instead of waiting for the other person to reject you, you do yourself a favor and reject yourself first. Now, no one can hurt you.

There are times when we are not even aware that some of us are rejecting ourselves. Maybe, we have tried a lot of things and our hearts cannot take anymore Nos. Maybe, our loved ones have criticized us so much that we have lost self-esteem. Maybe we are comfortable in our unhappiness and we do not want to stir the pot.

Whatever the reason you give yourself, it is not good enough. You need to take a leap of faith for yourself, and the little ones who are watching you. Go ahead and apply for that position that you think you do not qualify for, ask that person out, go for what you really want to do. That dream, that was starting to fade or the goal, you think it is too far, it is never too late to try again. You can do it. You have everything in you to take the first step. Maybe you will be rejected by the person you ask out, that is okay, at least you move on and you get to learn something about yourself and maybe, you might find out you really did not like the person. It was a crush. What about if they say yes. That would be a win you almost did not get.

Self-rejection keeps you stuck in a place that you do not want to be. It makes you not have conversations that are supposed to help you take you to the next step. Being stuck, means there is no room for growth. It is not a good place to be. Be the one who does the hard things. Reaching out to a spouse when you are mad at each other. Swallow your pride and listen to why you cannot get the promotion NOW. This will also help you make a decision whether you want to stay with the company or not.

When you take the first step, you will find out how fast you can go, how healthy you are and what you need to do continue on this journey. If you are stuck, you will never know what you are losing. I would like to encourage someone, including myself, that you are more than enough. The world is already tough on you and you need someone to cheer for you. It needs to start with you. Be your own cheerleader. Even if you have loved ones that are cheering for you, but when you do not believe in yourself, it means nothing. Do an inventory of your life if you do not believe. Look at the things you have gone through and survived. You will find out that you are stronger and powerful than you give yourself credit.

I am going to leave you with The Holstee Manifesto – This is your life, do what you love. https://www.holstee.com/pages/manifesto